How many people have you been?

How much have you changed since you initiated adult life? It is a milestone difficult to measure – what makes you an adult, and since when you made this move, psychologically? Was it when you moved away from home, or when you started to pay all your bills? Was it when you got married, had kids?


Self-Portrait with Pipe by Vincent van Gogh, 1886

Think about all the ways you have changed – have you ever imagined? You have been so many people, and all those people are inside you some way, fading as they have to share space with a self that constantly grows new. Not all changes are desirable, but if we understand how dynamic we are, we start thinking on ways to actively move in the direction we perceive as best.

So, as a person that is constantly changing, what makes you, you? What is the essence of a human being? Is there such a thing? Is our concept of self anything but the idea of a consciousness that processes and store information acknowledged by senses from the collection of experiences human beings have, mixing them up in a way there are a few patterns to learn from?

I don’t have an answer for those. What about you?


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18 responses to “How many people have you been?

  1. I think the essence of who we are, is life. It is what we share with all creatures – we all have the spark of life.

    Which leads to the mystery of what is life?

    So much of who we are, we aren’t even aware of. The unconscious mind for example, is this huge part of us we are not conscious of but it exists.

    What is behind life? Where does it come from? How can it even be?

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    • Those are complex questions. The unconscious not only exist, but rules a great deal of our behavior. But that makes everything interesting, right?


  2. It’s good to know that some people still know the right questions to ask. i was really challenged by this, and it rang some thought: Does it matter who we are, does any of this matter? It’s a dangerous thought, yes, but it can make you get a grip if you understand it…or at least I think so. Actually, I found my purpose in another person myself.

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    • Thanks a lot for your comment – It is a very good question. I believe while we hang on the concept of self and separate us from others, getting to deeply know what we call self is fundamental for being able to live well. But in the process of self discovery, we must understand we are always changing, sometimes in a deep way. Directing and embracing such changes is the challenge. I would love to know how you found your purpose πŸ™‚


      • Well, here is my story: As I grew older, I naturally grew in the understanding of myself. Notably, it seemed as if I wasn’t fundamentally different from any other person I knew; having an evil tendency per say. Eventually, I stopped fighting with this fact. This was what I couldn’t understand until I met the person of Jesus Christ. He explained the human condition with so much precision that I was persuaded as I confirmed it within me. I understand that this is seemingly lame and desperate, but I reason quite well and I test my faith regularly and I can explain this reason for my hope.

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  3. I think the idea of self is one that can be almost impossible to define. Who we are, for the first 2 decades of our life, is largely influenced by those around us. As children we model our parents or parental figures, and also our siblings. In fact studies have shown that children will be more likely to smoke, drink and do drugs if they have an older sibling who does. This deviated from the idea that it was mostly the parents that children modelled. Through school we model our friends and teachers. We become a sort of amalgamation of the people around us. I think these types of metaphysical questions cannot really be answered accurately by anyone, it’s largely subjective.

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  4. Awesome post can totally relate as I feel like I am constantly changing

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  5. What makes you, you? What a great question! Is it the manifestation of a primary personality that is the product of blending all of the different personas we have developed over the years to meet the requirement at the time? Is it multiple personalities residing in a single entity that surface when the situation warrants those specific traits? Is it an evolution of a single personality over a given course of time?

    There was a time in my life where I lost track of who I was; I lost my way along the journey of self discovery. Once I thought I had reached my destination, I realised it wasn’t me who had arrived. It wasn’t me at all. It was at that point that I realised that once you lose yourself, you have two choices. Either you find the person you used to be or lose that person completely. Sometimes it is a necessity to step outside of the person that you have been and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you wanted to be and most importantly, the person that you are…

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    • You are right – sometimes total deconstruction of self is necessary to getting real knowledge of it. Loved the insight. Thanks so much for commenting.

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  6. We are nothing as an individual ,we are sum of circumstances ,opportunities, relationships ,genetic structures, we are like computer with software and hardware which can be updated depending on above factors

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