Why would you decide to engage in something that would inevitably make your life harder for a very long time? Because having children is much more than cuteness, unmeasurable love and spreading genes.
Having children is an act of selflessness. Some argue that it is the opposite – that the world is too crowded already and that putting one more body to it will just make things worse. That people do that exclusively for their own fulfillment. This is not the full history. Children bring joy for those around. Usually, the parents are the ones who bear the downsides. Grandparents, uncles, friends and extended family usually experience only the great and cute part of a human life blooming.
Having children is a way to make the world a better place. Children are much more likely to learn acceptance, love and community principles as they are to learn a language. As people actively teach kids to read, they should actively teach children about environmental issues, how to be a good person and how economy works. Those teachings might not shape perfect human beings, but might help shifting environment, politics and inequality to better directions.
Having children may help achieve a smoother ending. We are all going to grow old and die. We might very well live in pain for a while and depend on others for very basic needs. We can all wish we would die fast and quick, with no suffering, but considering all the possibilities allow us to reflect on them. A well-structured family should ensure that one will be taken care properly when getting old – it must be a family principle. Remembering what family is for might help overcome mixed feelings some people experience for taking care of elders when they were the ones being took care of for so much time. Resentment might as well be present – remembering most times parents do the best they can, and reflecting if whatever happened is forgivable, one should take care of elders with love, so children will watch, learn by the example and continue the cycle.
Having children is also a way to spread your genes, and although this is usually not the first rational reason, it is the believed biological main one. It is at least interesting to think your genes mixed up with someone else’s genes will be walking around the universe, growing and developing without you, you having minimal if some control. It is the closest to eternal life we can get for now.
What do you think it is the most important thing to consider when deciding to have kids? Please comment!
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