We go with our lives so self-centered that, sometimes, we forget to be kind. Kindness seems like a secondary thing to worry about. We have so many worries – paying the bills, dealing with telemarketing attendants, traffic. Why should we care about being kind when we have so much stuff in our minds? Why do any extra effort on being kinder when this is not even what comes natural to us? The idea looks very naïve and unproductive.
Working on being kind is a very intelligent thing to do. Kindness brings an entire spectrum of benefits – physical, psychological, emotional, social, and even spiritual, if you like the concept.
People who are kind have better relationships. As relationships have a huge influence on how things will turn out in life, they have better chances of achieving success. Also, it is easier to be kind to yourself when you practice your kindness on others.
You don’t need any huge arrangements in order to be kind. Start by saying Hi and smiling, and grow from there. Smiles and sincere compliments spread joy – don’t keep them to yourself, they have no value hidden. Kindness can be learned – the more you practice, the better you get at it and the more natural it becomes.
Seek for the attitude and the courage of being as empathetic as possible, sincerely treating others as you would wish to be treated if you were in their situation. Put on their shoes, even when they don’t seem to fit. Don’t regard someone as a stupid or bad person – remember the many mistakes you made yourself and refrain from judging. Acknowledge that everyone has something to teach, and be open to learn. Practice your patience – you don’t control other people’s behaviors, but you control your reactions to whatever comes. Own it. Patience and empathy will get you a much longer way than rudeness or indifference.
Do you try to be kind even when you don’t feel like it? Do you think kindness is naïve? How do you practice kindness and what changes that brings to your life? Let me know in the comments!
Want more information?
Extraordinary initiatives to get inspired on being kind:
Books on the subject (non-affiliate links):
- The Healing Power of Doing Good, by Allan Luks
- Why Good Things Happen to Good People: How to Live a Longer, Healthier, Happier Life by the Simple Act of Giving, by Stephen Post
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